The Savages

This evening I went to see a film
The Savages it is about a brother
and sister who put their father in
a nursing home.....

I started to think about getting older
and why is it that the end our life
is spent in such a place. I wondered what
if it was different, what would I choose and how
would I choose to live the last days of my life.

It would be different for everyone I know. I started to think
about dimentia and what if it was caused by the fact
that no one wanted to listen, that we had no more self
esteem, striped from titles and tired bones..so we choose to forget in order to stop the
lonelyness, the emotional pain and eventually we forget all together...

what if it was different, but how....what would I choose

when having conversation we always seem to talk about
the hospital bed, Burial or cremation, organ donor or not
but what about the nursing home-we always look the other
way even for those who have loved ones there already we just except it and
feel sad..but perhaps now is the time to change
those places, the time to make such a place a place for living
not for dying...

what if it was different, but how...what would i choose